Update

So, bei mir hat sich einiges getan - wir sind umgezogen (endlich) und irgendwann mal demnächst gibt es auch vielleicht wieder ein WLAN zuhause, zur Zeit gibt es nämlich nur Internet aus der "Steckdose". Der letzte Ultraschall hat gezeigt, daß zwar Eizellen da sind, aber sie sind wohl relativ klein. Daher gab es dann noch 3 Tage Menotropinspritzen am Morgen, dann wieder ein Ultraschall (man könnte auch sagen schon wieder), aber offensichtlich sind die Eierchen immer noch nicht groß genug. Dr. Pervers hat deshalb nochmal 3 Tage Menotropin in der gleichen Dosis verschrieben, auch, weil er sich Sorgen wegen einer Überstimulation macht. Heute morgen gab es die letzte Spritze (für die ich übrigens immer in den Kreißsaal gehen durfte, genau der richtige Ort für Unfruchtbarkeitspatientinnen in Behandlung, oder?), morgen ist, tralala, vorfreu, eine weitere Ultraschalluntersuchung angesagt und dann werden wir sehen, ob wir am Wochenende auch aus reproduktionstechnischen Gründen oder einfach nur so weils gut ist miteinander ins Bett gehen.

Ach ja: Wer hätte es gedacht, es gibt auch einen Psychotest für Patientinnen in Fruchtbarkeitsbehandlungen. Das kam bei mir raus (und ich habe mich ziemlich gut darin wiedererkannt):

Your fertility problems leave you feeling helpless. Feeling helpless can bring down your mood and weaken your emotional state. Create a list of things you could do to fill your time and make you feel better. Find a distraction, head out with a friend, or your partner.
Get through the months ahead by putting some thought into organising your life.

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You find it difficult to share your feelings. Discussing fertility issues may be uncomfortable, but it’s important that you reach out for support.  Discussing fertility issues may be uncomfortable, but it’s important that you reach out for support. Your friends and family can’t help unless they know how you feel. Infertility is a sensitive subject and many people may not know how to react. Guide the conversation and help them avoid topics that may be hurtful or make you feel uncomfortable. Feel free to say you’re not in the mood for a heavy chat and ask what’s new with them.

Use as many sources of support as you feel comfortable with. Each will have something different to offer and you will find what works for you best. Let your friends know how they can support you.

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You steer clear of social settings where there will be babies and women who are pregnant. It’s reasonable to feel vulnerable if you’ve just completed a treatment cycle and the result has been negative. A baby shower may not top your list of a fun evening out. However the more you avoid pregnant friends and their babies, the more you’ll become distressed. You’ll become trapped by your feelings.
In general, seeking emotional support can help you to release distress. Avoiding reflection about your fertility problems or being childless prevents you from confronting the surrounding emotions. This may make you comfortable in the short term, but in the longer term, it results in more distress.

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It’s difficult for you to stay optimistic. Your spirits tend to fail. Try talking positively to yourself. If you are not used to it, create a ‘waiting card’ for difficult moments. Transforming your mood through positive thought is a skill you can learn.
Stay positive by using the ‘Waiting Card.’ This series of positive statements will help you regain perspective when you need it most.

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You have difficulties finding things to do to keep your mind off your fertility problems. Perhaps you don’t feel as if you have the energy to make arrangements, but if you try, you’ll feel better without doubt.
With a little planning, the time will pass and you’ll find the strength to continue from one cycle to the next. Use week-to-week planner to help balance your treatment with some activities you enjoy.

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Your partner may be using different coping strategies. Ask him to use this tool and compare the results. You may come to understand each other better.
Acknowledgement:
This tool was developed by Chris Verhaak, clinical psychologist from the Radboud University Nijmegen, Department of Medical Psychology. She wrote a thesis and published many articles on psychological aspects of fertility problems. She works as a researcher and as a psychotherapist in close collaboration with the department of reproductive medicine of the Radboud University Nijmegen, in the Netherlands.

Und falls Ihr auch den Test machen wollt: hier gibt es ihn!

Mal gucken, ob ich morgen nach dem Ultraschall zu einem Update komme - eine Freundin (die gerade darüber nachdenkt, sich von ihrem Mann scheiden zu lassen, so zum Thema Probleme und Coping!) wollte übers Wochenende zu Besuch kommen. Wir werden sehen und ich drucke mir jetzt erstmal eine "Waiting Card" aus...